If lesbians use and like toys such as dildos and vibrators, why don’t they like a real live penis? I’ve experienced both and a real penis is better. Usually.

Curious George,

This is a frequently asked question, for sure.  And the answer may require some people to go look at kittens instead.

My general rule in answering these questions is to ask the person asking the question to flip the script.  That is to say, reverse the question and ask it of yourself.  So, let’s try that here.  I’m assuming that you’re a straight woman, or that you prefer sex with a man.  That said:

If straight women like penetration with a penis, why don’t they like penetration by a dildo – from a woman?

As you’ve identified, there is a difference between the two.  Your preference is for a penis.  My preference is for a dildo.  And for a woman.  That’s all.  It’s not that I don’t like penetration.  It’s that I like sex with a  woman, and everything that comes with it.


1 Curious George { 06.09.10 at 12:25 pm }

Ok. That’s good stuff. May I ask how you know you don’t like a live one if you haven’t tried it? Of course I haven’t tried your way either so that’s got me thinking….

2 KFlick { 06.09.10 at 12:26 pm }

Curious George,

I’m glad you’re thinking that way! It’s true I haven’t been with a man. But I’ll tell you why I’m pretty sure I’d prefer being with a woman. When I said that I like sex with a woman, and all that comes with it, I meant it. Women are soft. Even when we’re muscular, we’re soft. I love the way women feel, and smell and taste. I love being close to another woman. Brushing my cheek against hers. For as long as I can remember, when I think about being with a woman, I feel warm and open and excited.

When I think about sex with a man, I get a funny face and feel, frankly, turned-off. I think that’s a pretty clear indication that I’m not sexually attracted to men, as a general rule. It doesn’t mean I can’t appreciate that an attractive man is, well, attractive. It just means I don’t get that funny feeling in that special place.

And I know I AM sexually attracted to women, as a general rule. For me, the emotional connection that I find with a woman multiplies the attraction. But that’s another topic…

3 Heather T { 06.09.10 at 12:27 pm }

The sex posts have been fun discussions to read. I was gonna say, I don’t need to have sex with a man to know I am not attracted to them. It doesn’t mean I don’t like men, but when it comes to finding a partner and someone to spend my life with, I prefer it be with a woman. As my gayboy Adam so eloquently puts attraction, “They should make you feel funny in your ‘uh-oh’ spot.” Men just don’t do that for me. A beautiful woman who is wicked smart and funny, on the other hand, sign me up.

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